how did I fail?
I told you that the load time for me was 11 sec per page.
I also informed you of the fact as to why YOUR load time was shorter than most.
As someone who has in the past made many flash websites, I understand how they need to be constructed to work effectively on the web.
I informed you of the fact that the way you made your flash file was in fact incorrect.
Yes, I don't like flash and for a very good reason. It chews up way too much resources and is not seo friendly, by reloading every page it not only chews up further resources, but drives the visitor crazy.
I also mentioned that your site indeed does not need to use flash at all based on the content provided. I perhaps should have pointed you in the direction of jquery but...
All in all, I perhaps may have been not exactly "friendly" in my response, but honestly I don't care, I'm not here to stroke your ego, never have and never will, if you take constructive criticism as an insult than that's your own prerogative...not my issue.